famous last words...

Job interviews are short, crisp, and very important parts of your career.

A good interview can make your career and a bad interview can either offer you progress at best and seriously hamper your progress at worst.

Therefore, it is very important to be completely ready, and know what to say when you attend an interview.

In addition, whatever the post may be, or whatever the job position may be, you should clearly know what not to say in an interview.

What to Say in a Job Interview

1. The art of listening

One of the first skills of a conversation, let alone an interview, is the art of listening. There is a major difference between hearing and listening. We hear music, an action in which we may miss some lyrics or some part of the music, but we hear what is important to us and what we should pay attention to. During an interview, one should remind oneself to hear, understand and keep in mind what the interviewer is saying.

2. When to speak

Also, during an interview, one should keep in mind when to speak and when not to. People who speak when not required stand a high risk of being branded a talkative person, or a person who does not think properly before he or she speaks out. Therefore, take the time to keep silent and listen to what the interviewers have to say. This is doubly important when you are facing more than one interviewer.

3. The information you provide

During an interview, how much information you give out is as important as how much information you retain. Also, try to remain as calm and confident as possible. Make sure that you do not fidget while answering any of the questions. Fidgeting will only make the interviewer think that you are bluffing the interview. Concentration and focus are quite important in a job interview.

4. Provide Facts

Make sure that you have a short fact to share about whatever you tell the interviewer. This will only add to your resume later. However, the fact should not be too long and boring. Remember, the interview is of a very short time span. Give such facts only if the interviewer asks you about it.

5. Relevancy

Additionally, make sure that your job interview focuses on relevancy. You should share any information relevant to your career, or the job profile in general, or even relevant to the interview. If the job requires certain abilities that you possess, make sure that your interview concentrates on those.

6. A team player

Make sure that you give the interviewers an idea that you are a team player. Being a team player means a lot in today’s corporate world. Also, once you have proven that you are a team player, you should try to put across the idea that you like to interact with your team members as well as other individuals on a general basis.

7. Motivation

Another important aspect to put across is that you like to know more about the companies that you work for, so that you better understand the workings of the company and hence contribute to the values of the company.

8. Future plans

Also, make sure that you tell them about any concrete ambition that you have.

9. Honest answers

Lastly, remember that an interview is just the beginning of the job and hiring process. There are several steps along the way where anything that you say will be checked and cross checked. Therefore make sure that you are completely honest about your answers.

What NOT to Say in a Job Interview

Here are some of the ‘don’t’s about appearing for an interview:

1. Private information

One of the biggest mistakes that people commit in an interview is giving out private information when it is not needed, or even when it is simply not asked.

2. Your weaknesses

Do not confess to any weaknesses that may put you in a bad light. If it were so bad, the interviewer would have already noticed it and not called you for an interview.

3. Past problems

Another major problem is created when people speak about the problems that they encountered while they were in their previous jobs. Also, do not try to tell them about any personal likes or dislikes that you may have. Make sure that you do not talk to them about your past disappointments, or anything negative that you have to tell about your previous organization you worked with.

4. The salary

Never discuss the salary unless and until you are asked about it. Salary negotiations are always carried out after receiving a job offer.

Therefore, saying the wrong things during the interview might cost you the job, while saying the right things might get you the job.

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Just found it interesting so its here...

:-)

Have you tried many a times to quit smoking?

In your attempt to stop smoking, have you succeeded but not for more than a week? Do your urge to smoke overpower your reasoning and even after knowing that smoking can cause you serious diseases, you just want that heavenly feeling- the feeling that lasts for only a few minutes? If I hear you say “yes!” then you must read on the following tips. Rightly put, these tips include certain changes in your food habits, your way of living and some Ayurvedic treatments that will help you get rid of your cigarette. They can also be certain home remedies- the simple formulations from easily obtained ingredients. All together- they are your key to quit smoking!

Ayurvedic Tips to Stop Smoking

Your body reacts aggressively when you suddenly stop smoking. This is because your body gets used to the addictive substances found in tobacco such as nicotine and tar. For this reason, Ayurveda advocates fortifying your body to fight the strong urge of smoking.

• Reduce having acidic foods. Meat, dairy products, tea, coffee, pasta, breads etc. are acidic food. Increase your intake of alkaline food. Vegetables, fruits, nuts, sprouts etc. are alkaline foods. Raisins, beets, lima beans, dandelion, etc. are particularly good for giving up smoking.

• Take lots of vitamin C. Smokers should take about one-and-a-half times the amount of vitamin C as compared to nonsmokers. Citrus fruits, like oranges, grapefruits and their juice are good source of vitamin C.

• Sweet foods in small quantities reduce the urge for smoking. Take honey in whatever food you can have- juice, tea (preferably herbal tea), sweet dishes, etc.

• Whenever the urge to smoke overpowers you, have something salty or lick a little salt with the tip of your tongue. This kills your urge for smoking.

• Take some radish. Grate it and extract its juice. Now add some honey to this and have this juice twice a day. It will increase your body’s resistance against smoking.

• Chew liquorice (mulethi). It is a good substitute of cigarette when you feel like smoking. Its slight sweet taste also helps killing your urge. It will also relieves you off your smoker's cough. Alternatively, you can also chew on sugarcane stubs.

• A massage with aromatic oils also relax you and curb the urge for smoking.

• Fragrance really go a long way to create an atmosphere where the thought of smoking can't enter. Take the herbal extracts- cedar, lavender, lemon, orange, and tea tree - mix them with water. Use the mixture as an air spray.

 

These tips are such that can be done without much effort- the only thing is your willpower that will lead you to take the first step, then the second and so on. Wish you all the luck in your healthy mission of quitting smoking!

Every one of us enjoyed IPL3.

 At least most of us did.

Most of those who didn’t like ipl even they where happy.

I’m talking about mummies and aunties and all TV Serial buff.

To survive, all TV serials introduced killing twists and turns.

Nahi toh serials main shadi ek mahine tak chalti thi…

Hahaaa…

I’m not kidding its fact.

Few months back when I saw ‘ye rishta kya kehlata hai there was some marriage going on.

When I saw it after one month again, marriage was still going on!!!

Hahaaaa…

But due to ipl all shadis & sagais in the serials were completed in two episodes.

Yes believe me or ask your mother or sister or aunt this usually doesn’t happen.

Haahhaaa…

New artist were introduced… lead actors were killed…

Story went on zzoop jaap… very fast…

If u missed a single episode the next time you won’t understand the show.

Otherwise I use to watch just a single episode of each serial(in a week) and know what is going on.

What all I got from IPL3?

• We all friends instead of talking about ….

new fashion….

or how to lose weight…

or what’s going on in balika vadhu…mahi way...rishta.com…etc.

or greenery around us

started talking about our favorite IPL team… favorite player… which team jersey look good… etc…etc…

hahahaaa…

• Irregular sleeping habit.

• Dark circles.

• Extra 2kgs weight.

• Pimple..etc...

will update it soon.

Last year.

We group of ‘girly gang’ had planned to dance on stage after really long time. I did it after almost SIX YEARS!!! We all were excited. We were ready to learn and make that move perfect.

We had practiced for almost a month.

Believe me it was not easy for all of us.

In the first week we felt it was impossible. I was ready to quit but couldn’t do that because my maa was the organizer of the show and President of that club. She wanted me to perform. I was sure that I’ll make myself look like a fool on stage.

I COULDN’T DANCE !!!

We were not dancers.

At one point of time we felt that our body can’t move.

But I had to take part in it all because of my maa.

In the second week we couldn’t believe ourselves. We all started dancing!!!

As the time passed we started enjoying it.

All thanks to maa otherwise I thought I couldn’t dance.

Par kahani main jab tak twist nahi aayega to maaja kaise aayega?

It was the audition day.

We saw other group’s performances...

aur hame hamari aukad pata chal gayi…

They all were so good.

Well practiced.

So in the third week hamne jee jaan laga diya…

We started practicing all that latkas and jhatkas…

We learned to do those scary lifts n formations….

That we had never even imagined.

Now we were not that bad…

Everyone in the selection committee liked our performance.

We were even better than some other groups !!!

we couldn't believe that.

We were very confident and felt yes we could do it…

Happy…

But it is said that, don’t count your chicken before they are hatched…

We were told to cut the sasural genda phool song!!!

Kahani mein ek aur twist…hmy:

We thought we had our best formations and lifts on that song.

Genda phool was in between desi girl and some other song in our sound track.After cutting genda phool our songs were not matching.

We were told to cut it because one other group had that song.

It was at the end… so we thought they should cut it… it will be easy for them.

We requested them to cut their genda phool but they didn’t agree.

We requested the organizers to allow both groups to keep the song but they didn’t agree.

We were not into dancing and performing on stage, so even we couldn’t understand the politics going on.

Finally we had to cut it.:(

We wanted sasural genda phool but now were looking like fool.

Hahaa…

We had to put more efforts to make the sound track interesting..

Last minutes change and all...

uffff.....

.......and........

Finally stage performance...

We thought we will mess up...

But when the going gets tough the tough gets going...

Audience loved our performance.

We were very happy....

It was a GREAT EXPERIENCE...

one of the most memoreble experience of my life...

hahaaaa...

----Swati----

Till now I’ve written some articles.

From all of them my favorites are:-

• Smog attacked Jaldi Jaldi Express

• Love Story 1947

Read them...

hope u like them...

swati...

 

How many people did you see talking on a cellphone today? ( none? a few? everybody?)

Over the next 24 hours count the number of people you see talking on their cell phones. Humor me and actually count and remember the exact number.

I wager that the number of people you counted in the 24 hour period was greater than the number of people you saw without thinking about it.

Why?

Because what we focus on expands.

Do you focus on problems or do you focus on solutions? Which one is expanding in your world?

swati

 Once in a while we all face a decision, a challenge or a problem that seems gigantic. Enormous. . .

We look at if from every angle, toss and turn, give it a rest but we don't produce a solution. We apply our tool box of skills without results.

So we reluctantly move on and live.

And sometimes an amazing thing happens, maybe in a few minutes, a few months or in years - we can understand the problem we couldn't figure out earlier. We have a new view.

Obstacles look different in the rear view mirror.

Here's to springing forward.

-swati-

We all have it.

Some of us are really good at using it and some of us ignore it. . .

A gut feeling, an internal voice or an immediate insight.

Wiki defines intuition as "the apparent ability to acquire knowledge without inference or the use of reason."

When you think about your past experiences, can you define specific examples of

when it has helped or hurt you?

How do you connect with your intuition?

Is intuition valuable to you or not?

As you age, are you getting better or worse at intentionally feeling and using it?

 

swati jha

Does it feel different being a star?

I don't know how it feels.

I'm not a star.

But last month I was a star of my own world.

My photograph was in a magazine.

My comment on twitter was on a national channel.

I felt like a star for a moment.

I just jumped with happiness when Anna MM Vetticad twitted that she has mentioned my twit on her show.

I was so happy. 

Yes, I know its a very small thing.

But it's a big thing for a normal girl like me.

All you who are on 'page3' or on cover page of a national magazine

won't understand this.

I don't know why i'm witting this.

Sometimes I behave in a weird way.

Hahaaaaaaaa...

Yes, I know I'm not a star.

My friends say I talk a lot.

My cousins say I don’t talk.

Actually at different situations I behave differently.

For those who can’t talk… or “So, what should I talk about?” this question arises in their mind. This is a must read for them.

DON’T WORRY.

Often in our heads….when already in a conversation… with an awkward silence looming and while trying to scramble for something to say.

That’s not an entirely bad place to be though. Pauses in conversations are natural and it’s good to get used to the social pressure of a conversation gone quiet.

However, if you too often run into silences, if they have a tendency to go on for a little bit too long then it’s always good to have few pointers stored at the back of your mind.

Here are 5 great things to talk about. And a little bit further down, 5 things you should probably try to avoid talking about.

1. The person you are talking to

For many the favorite subject to talk about is themselves. Be curious about people and who they are.

I mostly talk about myself……hahaaaaaa…. You can talk about me…Just kidding.

My maa say: “Swati mostly talk about herself…don’t allow anyone else to talk”

Par kya karu its my genes. My father talk a lot…my grandfather talk a lot…everyone in my family just talk talk talk…

My maa say: “You can make more friends in two months by becoming really interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. Which is just another way of saying that the way to make a friend is to be one.” She loves to be silent. She is a good listener.

Actualy I think I and my father and other family members talk so much that she doesn’t get chance to talk.

Back to topic: Figure out what the other person does besides work. What he/she really likes, passions and things that brings out the enthusiasm. Ask and use open-ended questions so s/he can’t just answer with a one-word answer. If you just get hmms and vague answers out of open-ended questions try leading questions. And try to actually listen instead of just waiting for you turn to talk. Focus outward instead of inward to improve a conversation.

Talk about what the other person really likes. It generally makes for more fun and compelling conversations to hear and see the enthusiastic and passionate part of a person than if you both stick to talking about the weather and work. And don’t worry about getting stuck in listening-mode. Most people will be glad to reciprocate and be interested in you if you are interested in them.

2. Your surroundings

It’s easy to become too focused on just one thing in a conversation. Widen your focus a bit, look around. There is always interesting stuff in your surroundings to start a conversation about. For example, at a party or a dinner in someone’s house it might be the fishes in the aquarium, the music playing, books and movies on the shelves, some cool piece of clothing someone is wearing and so on.

3. The news and water cooler topics

Keep an eye on the papers, there is almost always something interesting there to bring up in a conversation. Fascinating or funny topics are always good. Bringing up death, misery and controversial topics might not always be a great idea.

Besides the news there are always water cooler-topics to discuss. These often make for fun discussion. Such topics might be the latest episode of Roadies or IPL, something big and brand new serials like Emotional Attyachar. Talk about a brand new movie or a nice youthful movie like 3 idiots.

It might be useful to quickly browse social-networking sites like Twitter or facebook to find some of the things everyone seems to be talking about right now. It can help to discover some fascinating stories or trends.

4. Likes and dislikes

It’s a classic. People always like to discuss their likes and dislikes. Some examples:

• Favorite songs/albums.

• Favorite movies/TV-shows.

• The nastiest tasting piece of food you have eaten.

• Best/worst sites & software.

• The best vacation ever vs. the worst one.

• The best or worst teacher/job/boss/co-worker you’ve ever had.

5. Relatable emotions and experiences

This topic might seem a little fuzzy. In a way, it’s another way to look at some of the above topics. I think it’s a useful perspective to keep in mind though.

What I mean by this is what you share in the conversation is not the facts. What you share are experiences and emotions. The underlying excitement and the emotions that we all share regardless what we do.

One example might be how you discover that the other person loves travelling. So you ask: what is it about travelling that you like so much? S/he might say the excitement of discovering something new, something s/he’s never seen before. And maybe you have similar feelings about travelling too. So you might say something like: Yeah, I know, it´s a great when you have that fresh, totally new experience.

But you don’t have to be an enthusiastic traveller to relate. Perhaps you love books or movies. And then you can relate to how each time you discover and new author or great movie it’s like travelling into a totally new and exciting world where you never know what you will find.

So you can share similar feelings and experiences even though you might not seem similar as people. You may seem very different to one another, live different lives, but there are often connections to be made between you.

There are several powerful motivators and needs behind and in conversations and communication. One is to boost one’s ego. Something that can be done, for example, by using topic #1. Another is the feeling of connecting and sharing. Something you can do by using topic.

Five Potentially Awful Topics to Talk About

So, what topics should you avoid? None, really. But some topics are perhaps are only suited for some conversations. Maybe with close friends or family.

Some topics can get out of hand. You might need to limit the amount of time you talk about them. When people’s eyes are starting to glaze over, when people are starting to look around in the room and stop listening it’s time to change the subject.

Don’t suck the fun and positive energy of conversations. Think before you talk when the subjects below are on your mind.

1. Illness. No-one wants to hear too much about illness and bad health. It’s a downer. And people in general don’t want to reflect too much on things like: “Hmm, I wonder when I’ll get sick and how that will be”. It can put anyone in a sad and negative emotional state.

2. Your crappy boss, job, teacher, etc. It’s no fun hearing someone harp on and on about how unfair their boss is or how much their job suck. Complaining becomes draining to listen to rather quickly. Try to keep your complaining down or if you can just stop it all together.

3. Your boring job. If it’s a fascinating job then it might be interesting to talk about. If you’re enthusiastic about your job and really love then it can be fascinating to talk about it. If it’s just a job you’re not too fond of or a boring one try to limit the time you talk about it. If you like it but people don’t seem to be interested either drop it or find a way to improve how you talk about your job. No one wants to listen for too long to a topic they have no interest in.

4. Hard to relate to hobbies and similar subjects. Well, actually getting technical and talking too much about the content of the hobby rather than what excites you about it. Try to avoid technical jargon, acronyms and details that only you and other enthusiasts understand. Try to keep it simple and understandable instead. Try topic #6 above: Relatable emotions and experiences. Try to relate what excites you about your bicycling or recycling instead of getting lost in facts and details.

5. Serial killers and other creepy subjects. An obvious one. Just like talking about illness talking about Aahat or some intimate movie and similar subjects can make people really uncomfortable.

So these are some points which you might find useful while talking

:DKeep talking!!!!!!